Can’t be special and polyamorous
Polyamory is the most radical form of non-monogamy. Books supporting non-monogamous journeys may leave you puzzled why you struggle in your relationships. You might be trying to be special and polyamorous.
Post pandemic poly problems
I specialize in non-monogamous relationships. One thing has popped up repeatedly in the last few months, is what I call post pandemic poly problems. It goes something like this: The couple started dating pre-pandemic and had a lot of fun. One of them was very clear about their polyamorous stance and the other one was […]
Using design to make hard life choices
Design is everywhere, design thinking has made it into most innovation labs, and design thinking coaches are going strong. Today I’m sharing an amazing article on how to apply design principles to life choices. Thank you Sam for sharing this with us. You can tell from the profound writing these are original thoughts put out […]
Delayed gratification
“We’re not usually trying to be happy, we’re trying to avoid unhappiness” Sure, avoiding unhappiness is not the same as striving for happiness (or fulfillment), yet our day to day lives are structured more around avoiding unhappiness and pain than around fulfillment. This is also because we tend to seek instant gratification over long-term goals, […]
We have a fixed level of happiness
To make it short: The bigger share of our happiness is a given, according to the set-point theory in happiness research, also known as the hedonic treadmill. This observation was first made in 1978 by researchers looking into the development of people’s life satisfaction after events like winning the lottery or having a major accident, […]