# UTA Rothermel ## Posts - [How to make money because you’re bored](https://uta-rothermel.de/money-because-youre-bored/): Have you ever wondered how to make money because you're bored? If you are so inclined, you might just make most your money from an obscure private pet project. Here’s fourteen reasons why. - [How to be a proud goofball](https://uta-rothermel.de/be-a-proud-goofball/): Since I have a quirky website and service a niche, I get a lot of really cooky people in my office. But then I’m certainly biased in my assessment since I’ve always been a goofball and if there’s any consistency in what I do, I’ll encourage people to blossom at their cookiest. That said, let […] - [Can’t be special and polyamorous](https://uta-rothermel.de/cant-be-special-and-polyamorous/): Polyamory is the most radical form of non-monogamy. Books supporting non-monogamous journeys may leave you puzzled why you struggle in your relationships. You might be trying to be special and polyamorous. - [Post pandemic poly problems](https://uta-rothermel.de/post-pandemic-poly-problems/): I specialize in non-monogamous relationships. One thing has popped up repeatedly in the last few months, is what I call post pandemic poly problems. It goes something like this: The couple started dating pre-pandemic and had a lot of fun. One of them was very clear about their polyamorous stance and the other one was […] - [Couples workshop online: Love like a pro](https://uta-rothermel.de/couples-workshop-online/): This workshop was developed in-person pre-pandemic but has since moved online. For a small contribution, you and your partner get to explore some of the basics of sex and relationship therapy. Contact me to join our couples workshop online. This workshop is designed but not limited to people with no previous therapy experience who are […] - [Benefits of online couples counseling](https://uta-rothermel.de/online-couples-counseling/): Over the last years, online counseling has become more popular and I’m often asked why people would choose online over in-person counseling. Here are ten of the more popular online couples counseling benefits. If you are still unsure how to get access to counseling, think about these aspects: 1. Getting access to a counselor who […] - [Why I do English couples counseling in Berlin](https://uta-rothermel.de/english-couples-counseling-berlin/): Much of our lives is structured through cultural efforts and accomplishments, we're doing our best to be civil, loving and welcoming, and to contribute. beneath it all pulls a tide of more unruly forces. The power of these forces is addressed in couples counseling, offering outlets and channels for the unruly parts of human nature. - [Sex as... room for dark sides (introducing the relationship dynamics approach)](https://uta-rothermel.de/sex-as-room-for-dark-sides-introducing-the-relationship-dynamics-approach/) - [Sex als... Kommunikation (C.J. Ahlers)](https://uta-rothermel.de/sex-als-kommunikation/): Zentrale These des Buches ist ein Verständnis von Sex als Kommunikation mit der elementaren Botschaft des Angenommen-Seins: Das ist es, wonach wir uns sehnen, dass uns jemand will, so wie wir sind, mit Haut, Haaren, Stärken, Schwächen und Eigenheiten. - [Rules of kink 1: Consent](https://uta-rothermel.de/rules-of-kink-1-consent/): Consent: Kink, porn and #metoo In this series we look at RACK, beginning with rules of kink 1: consent. There are two established rule sets in BDSM and kink: Safe, sane and consensual (SSC) kink and risk-aware consensual kink (RACK). The more recent RACK approach drops the idea of a sane decision for actions because, […] - [Thirty years since Schnarch's passionate marriage!](https://uta-rothermel.de/schnarch-again/): The ability to self-soothe is crucial for functioning relationships.   It’s been over thirty years since “Passionate Marriage” made David Schnarch one of the most popular sex therapists on the planet. His approach altered our understanding of couple therapy and laid the foundation for a new tradition in the field. This article is for you, […] - [Gemeinsam statt Einsam](https://uta-rothermel.de/woche-der-seelischen-gesundheit/): Die Berliner Woche der seelischen Gesundheit hat sich in diesem Jahr das schöne Thema „Gemeinsam statt Einsam“ gesetzt. Mit einem bunten Programm laden verschiedene Initiativen zu einem Tag der offenen Tür ein. Auch in unserer Praxis bieten wir ein vielseitiges Programm. Ich freue mich schon darauf, die Arbeit meiner Kolleg*innen aus einem neuen Winkel kennen […] - [Using design to make hard life choices](https://uta-rothermel.de/design-hard-life-choices/): Design is everywhere, design thinking has made it into most innovation labs, and design thinking coaches are going strong. Today I’m sharing an amazing article on how to apply design principles to life choices. Thank you Sam for sharing this with us. You can tell from the profound writing these are original thoughts put out […] - [The difference between big and small life choices?](https://uta-rothermel.de/big-and-small-life-choices/): Small decisions potentially have huge impacts. Seemingly big decisions shrink to irrelevance in hindsight. So I’ve been wondering if there really is a difference between big and small choices. How can you tell the difference? I wanted to write about the difference between big and small decisions but wrote about decision making in general. My […] - [How to find the right therapist](https://uta-rothermel.de/how-to-find-the-right-therapist/): You would think it’s easy to find articles on how to find the right therapist but it really isn’t. Most articles seem to be written by therapists promoting their professional stance or by individuals sharing their experience. These articles make for great inspiration yet I wanted to find a post that is a little more […] - [Delayed gratification](https://uta-rothermel.de/delayed-gratification/): “We’re not usually trying to be happy, we’re trying to avoid unhappiness”  Sure, avoiding unhappiness is not the same as striving for happiness (or fulfillment), yet our day to day lives are structured more around avoiding unhappiness and pain than around fulfillment. This is also because we tend to seek instant gratification over long-term goals, […] - [Good parenting](https://uta-rothermel.de/good-parenting/): I’m a big fan of Wikihow, their work is as much a mystery as a joy to me and I’ve already learned all kinds of things on that page. Their step by step guidelines appeal to me as much as their clear layout and lovely illustrations. One of the most discussed topics that are actually […] - [Useful decision-making techniques](https://uta-rothermel.de/useful-decision-making-techniques/): Let’s assume you’re living the dream, and you’re perfectly in sync with yourself and your life. Most likely you are not currently facing a big decision. I see a big life decision as one that has holistic impact on your life, and comes at a high perceived switching cost, that is you can’t easily undo […] - [Schluss mit Secondhand-Sex](https://uta-rothermel.de/schluss-mit-secondhand-sex/): Heute schreibe ich auf Deutsch, weil ich ein deutsches Buch vorstelle. Marlise Santiagos Text war für mich ein wichtiger Impulsgeber und die erste Motivation, mich mit gelebter Sexualität intensiver auseinander zu setzen. Es folgten weitere Impulse und schließlich die Ausbildung als Sexualtherapeutin und der Einstieg in den Beruf. Nun bin ich über diese tolle Rezension […] - [Staying sane while parenting](https://uta-rothermel.de/staying-sane-while-parenting/): Blogging about parenting seems to be a lot about stress, and especially early parenthood is a huge life change. Here are a couple of helpful hints to cope with facing a massive amount of parenting:  Take breaks  Live a balanced life  Being a role model includes living a life you would be happy to see […] - [Sex as... space (introducing Esther Perel)](https://uta-rothermel.de/how-kink-can-help-maintain-desire/): Is sex something we do or is it a space we enter? I listened to Esther Perel posing that question the other day in her million-viewer talk, where she discusses infidelity and the duality of love and desire. As a sex therapist, the idea of sex as a space appealed to me, because it:  This […] - [We have a fixed level of happiness](https://uta-rothermel.de/we-have-a-fixed-level-of-happiness/): To make it short: The bigger share of our happiness is a given, according to the set-point theory in happiness research, also known as the hedonic treadmill. This observation was first made in 1978 by researchers looking into the development of people’s life satisfaction after events like winning the lottery or having a major accident, […] ## Pages - [Home](https://uta-rothermel.de/): uta rothermel Topics - [Relationship Workbook](https://uta-rothermel.de/workbook/): [vc_row][vc_column][vc_column_text] Every relationship is different. And yet, over time, certain challenges tend to appear again and again. In this workbook, I’ve collected some of the more common pitfalls I’ve seen across different stages of a relationship. The exercises are designed to invite reflection on patterns, communication, expectations, and unmet needs — both individually and together. […] - [Kasse](https://uta-rothermel.de/kasse/) - [Mein Konto](https://uta-rothermel.de/mein-konto/) - [Shop](https://uta-rothermel.de/shop/) - [Warenkorb](https://uta-rothermel.de/warenkorb/) - [free therapy](https://uta-rothermel.de/therapy/): Sign up for up to three sessions of free therapy that I can use for my youtube channel. individual therapy Topics I’m particularly interested in include: coaching If you are a therapist looking for support, I also offer up to three free coaching sessions in the context of my channel. Topics I am particularly interested […] - [termin buchen](https://uta-rothermel.de/termin-buchen/): Wie viel kostet die Therapie? Die Preise für Beratung und Therapie werden durch Vorschriften sowie durch die Nachfrage und die Erfahrung der Therapeutin bestimmt. Oft wird Therapie für Selbstzahlende zunächst aufgrund eines Mangels an Therapieplätzen gewählt. Heute bevorzugen die meisten meiner Klient*innen tatsächlich, selbst zu zahlen. Die Gründe dafür sind vielfältig, aber ein wesentlicher Grund […] - [paarberatung](https://uta-rothermel.de/paarberatung/): Gründe für Paarberatung Hier eine Liste häufiger Gründe, als Paar Beratung zu suchen: Worum geht es in einer Paartherapie? Im Mittelpunkt der Paar- und Beziehungsberatung steht Ihre Beziehungsdynamik. Oft kommen Paare, wenn bereits viel versucht wurde und die Trennung im Raum steht. Sie fragen sich, ob Sie sich trennen oder ob es weiter geht? Wir […] - [über mich](https://uta-rothermel.de/ueber-mich/): Mein Ansatz Ich bin beziehungsdynamische Paar- und Sexualberaterin, und achte so zuvorderst auf Ihre Beziehungsdynamiken. Dazu zählen die Beziehungen zu Ihnen selbst, Ihrer Partner*in, Ihren Eltern*, Ihrem Beruf, Sexualität und Spiritualität. Wie begegnen Sie einander, Dritten, sich selbst und mir? Wie setzen Sie Grenzen und wie sieht Ihr Energiehaushalt aus? Ich arbeite viel mit meinem […] - [blog](https://uta-rothermel.de/blog/) - [impressum](https://uta-rothermel.de/impressum/): Angaben gemäß § 5 TMG Uta RothermelWaldstr 3210551 Berlin Vertreten durch:Uta Rothermel Kontakt:Telefon: +491765-0193301E-Mail: uta.rothermel@gmail.com Umsatzsteuer-ID:Umsatzsteuer-Identifikationsnummer gemäß §27a Umsatzsteuergesetz: 34%2F498%2F01203 Wirtschafts-ID: Aufsichtsbehörde:Landesamt für Gesundheit und Soziales Berlin Verantwortlich für den Inhalt nach § 55 Abs. 2 RStV:Uta RothermelWaldstr 3210551 Berlin Haftungsausschluss: Haftung für Inhalte Die Inhalte unserer Seiten wurden mit größter Sorgfalt erstellt. Für die […] - [podcast](https://uta-rothermel.de/podcast/): Dive into the world of sex counseling and listen to people doing stuff with sex in Berlin. In the seven episodes of season one, „sexual anarchy“, I get to interview rebels and misfits, asking how we can channel our sexual energy and go wild not crazy. Topics of the podcast sexpunk include deviant phantasies, absurd […] - [Couples counseling](https://uta-rothermel.de/couplescounseling/): Is your relationship stuck in a rut or moving through a challenging transition? Are you feeling unhappy with your sex life, or struggling after a breach of trust? In these situations, many people consider couples counseling. I am a licensed counselor for sex and relationships, focusing on how relationships can both support and challenge us […] - [about](https://uta-rothermel.de/about/): I’m an experienced couples therapist, practicing online while based in Berlin. With a background in coaching, mediation, social work, and business management, I bring a breadth of experience and much passion to my job. Take a look around to learn more. As a counselor of more than ten years, I opened my own therapy space in 2021 […] - [booking](https://uta-rothermel.de/booking/): Book A Counseling Session This page is the easiest way to book a counseling session with me. You can schedule individual or couples counseling directly using the booking widget below.If you find an available time slot but the booking widget doesn’t work for you, feel free to reach out and claim it. You’ll find my […] ## Optional - [Agent (MCP protocol)](websites-agents.hostinger.com/uta-rothermel.de/mcp) [comment]: # (Generated by Hostinger Tools Plugin)